Friday, November 25, 2016

Beat The Crowds this Black Friday!

This blog was prepared by Lips'n'Licks in her own personal capacity. The opinions expressed in this article are the author's own.

Other than being known for the impressive sale prices on all items, Black Fridays are infamous for long line ups and crazy shoppers/linebackers rushing through stores for the next best thing at the best price. Maybe last year you thought it would be fun to join the crowd in shopping the day after the American Thanksgiving but this year I know you've learned your lesson – I sure did.

Want to know where I'll be this black Friday and Cyber Monday? On my couch, with my laptop, shopping online and sipping on some fine wine. I'll leave the long lines and possibly being rushed by inconsiderate customers to every one else. I've got no time for bruises and aching feet.

All of the same sales – and sometimes even better sales – are online anyway. With the best part being that with a click of a button I can buy as much as I want and have everything sent right to my doorstep! Perfect for those last few Christmas gifts – yes, I'm that person.

So, if you're like me or if I've convinced you to celebrate this Extended Black Friday event at home, check out what the Aren't We Naughty online store has in store from November 24th – 29th. Aren't We Naughty online is offering a whopping 20% OFF OF THE ENTIRE STORE!! Make sure you're logged on to Aren't We Naughty Online and take full advantage of our Extended Black Friday sales!

Happy Shopping!!


Tuesday, November 15, 2016

"It's Not You, It's Your Penis" - A Little Story About Communication

This blog was prepared by Lips'n'Licks in her own personal capacity. The opinions expressed in this article are the author's own.

One of the biggest difficulties in sex isn't doing it but talking about it. For some reason, while engaging in intercourse, talking with our bodies is not an issue. But when we have to put those actions into words - pussy's got out tongues. One of my first times breaking out of my shell and communicating with my then partner about what makes me happy between the sheets was opening up about my thoughts on penetration. At that point I was having sex regularly with my partner and I was unconsciously learning what I liked from what I didn't like. And I was finding that penetration was getting to be very unpleasant.

It wasn't until then that I noticed he was all penetration all the time. He would cut the foreplay short or skip it completely by trying to insert his hot dog into a dry bun. Naturally, my body would respond by self lubricating. Sure the first initial stroke would feel good but the pleasure would wear off and for the next seven to ten minutes I'd be completely bored. I felt like a blow up doll! Obviously I couldn't tell him what I was thinking in those exact words - he was my partner and I cared about his feelings. It was a few sessions after where I found my opening.

"It's not you, it's your penis." He had rolled around and faced me after his nap to ask me what was wrong and that was the first thought that came out of my mouth. After seeing his reaction, I automatically regretted my choice of words but it had to be said! I quickly recovered and explained to him that I am aware of how much pleasure he receives from penetration but I don't think he's aware of the pleasure I am missing from it. I continued by explaining that penetration is naturally a reproductive device, yes it feels great for the male but for the female it can be lower than a five on the pleasure producing scale  - depending on the woman. I moved the conversation to what I liked about our sex life and we agreed on different things we can try to keep both of us happy between the sheets. Trust and believe, after that conversation I never had to ask for cunnilingus. Ever. Again.

Sure, my experience started a little shaky - which is normal - but ended in positivity and growth - also normal. What I was most surprised about was his willingness to listen and add to the conversation; we were comfortable and confident that we could speak and be heard. In sex – and any type of relationship – communication is key. Next time you have something to say remember we're human beings not mind readers. 

Happy Communications!!


Monday, November 7, 2016

Maximize Sex With A Vibrator

This blog was prepared by Lips'n'Licks in her own personal capacity. The opinions expressed in this article are the author's own.

In a recent post I've outlined a few ways we can pumpkin spice up our sex lives; one way was by using a vibrator. I quickly realised I had suggested something but hadn't given any detailed pointers, so here we go! Adding some sensual vibes to intercourse may be easier for some than others, but I can assure you that with the liberal times we live in now owning and using a vibrator - whether solo or with accompaniment - is becoming the norm. Here are some great tips on how to maximize sex with a vibrator no matter what side of the comfort spectrum you are on.

Adding vibes while giving your partner a massage during foreplay is a great way to slowly enter the world of sex with a vibrator. Using a massage wand like the PalmPower you are able to get your partner into position, lying on their belly while you slowly let the wand travel from the nape of their neck to the dip in their back. You can also control the intensity of the vibration - and they do get intense - from a low rumble, that your partner would feel resonating throughout their body, to a high pitched buzz that will speedily get your partner ready for play. The great thing about massage wands is - when you choose the right one - they can be used externally as well as internally with matching silicone head attachments. If you and your partner are feeling adventurous you can perform the massage while they are lying on their back and let the wand voyage from their lips to their nipples, to their belly button, across the mons pubis, detouring around their naughty bits and ending with a kiss.

Oral Sex
Let's make that kiss that ended our massage into the first kiss that starts oral sex to continue the pleasure. When using a vibrator during cunnilingus you should think of it as an eleventh finger. When your neck deep in the juices of a vulva - lips preoccupied with the external and your hands preoccupied with keeping her hips up and forward - it can be hard to multitask and please her externally as well as internally. Try using only one had to keep her hips up and forward which leaves the other hand open to manipulate a g-spotter vibrator. Start with using the vibrator to massage her perineum and the rim of her vagina, then slowly insert and speed up the vibes remembering to focus on her g-spot. Adding a vibrator during fellatio can be easy. Both hands are usually holding on to their partners knees or keeping a firm grip on their ass for balance. So use only one hand to grip the ass for balance and use a vibrator that can easily shape to your palm, on a low rumble setting to massage their perineum and testicles while teasing them with the tantalizing in and out motion of your mouth.

During Penetration
Over seventy percent of women cannot achieve orgasm through penetration alone. The addition of a vibrator stimulating her clitoris while being penetrated is a great way to keep her satisfied and closer to achieving the infamous vaginal orgasm. The clitoris is VERY sensitive and may sometimes cause pain rather than pleasure so I would suggest the vibrator be controlled by the woman. You can hold the vibrator to your clitoris while lying back in the missionary position, in the 6:45 position being taken from behind or doggy style. This technique can be used in any penetrative position that allows you to comfortably hold the vibrator to your clitoris. If you and your partner are feeling adventurous, you can give them full control of the vibrator during penetration to keep you on your already curled toes.

Hands Free
Thanks to the evolution of technology we are able to do may things hands free like talking on the phone in our cars. According to car companies it's a great safety feature when buying a vehicle. So, why not let translate into our sex lives? Using a penis ring or a couples vibrator during intercourse, the touch of a button leaves us hands and worry free without diminishing our pleasure. Vibrating penis rings work hands free at the base of the shaft of the penis to keep the penis erect for longer periods of time while the added vibration supplies another dimension of pleasure. And in the right penetrative position it makes contact with the clitoris at every stroke for mutual pleasure. And with a couples vibrator like the We-Vibe, all you have to do is fit it to the woman's body, press a button and let it do it's thing. While the vibrator is adding waves of pleasure, you and your partner are free to play in any position without worry that the vibrator may fall out of place.

I hope you enjoy these ideas to maximize your sex life using a vibrator. There are techniques ranging from very comfortable to no so comfortable and you can adjust depending on where on the spectrum you fall. Try these out and share your opinions on which technique works best for you.

Happy Explorations!!


Monday, October 24, 2016

Cherry Popped at The Toronto Everything To Do With Sex Show

This blog was prepared by Lips'n'Licks in her own personal capacity. The opinions expressed in this article are the author's own.

This past Saturday me and my friend popped our cherries and went to Toronto's The Everything To Do With Sex Show. Being my first time I had no idea what to expect. What kind of people would be there? How much information could I soak up? Would I be one of the lucky ones chosen to for a sexy lap dance? I had no idea what I was in for until I took my first step into the promised land...

Upon arrival I was greeted by beautiful women and gifted a goodie bag. In the bag was a show magazine, a card that listed the show and seminar schedules, and - of course - some useful freebies. The first thing that really surprised me about the convention was the atmosphere. People of every age, sexual and gender orientation and ethnicity were present. From the time you walked through the door you felt like you were an important part of something. Whether it was your first time or fifteenth time; whether you were educated about the industry or just starting out; whether you weren't completely comfortable or way too comfortable, everyone was there for one reason - for the love of sex.

Walking around the convention I was able to use all of my senses. I was able to look, feel, touch, smell and communicate to gain more knowledge on the wonders of this world. At every booth I was bathed with information and the volunteers were more than happy to answer all of my burning questions. Periodically, I would take a break from visiting booths and go to one of the three stages to see erotic movement sequences - my favourite being the Cirque Erotic where a lovely red-feathered woman effortlessly worked the pole and a red riding hood told us her story using silks. There was a burlesque stage, kink stage and even seminars to gain physical and mental knowledge. There was something for everyone!

All in all - unlike the real popping of my cherry - the day and the show was a success. I left with more knowledge and understanding and the drive to continue learning on my own volition. I also left with a couple of new toys which I couldn't wait to get home and try. You'll be reading about how those worked out shortly.

If you didn't go to the sex show, it's definitely something you should consider next year! If you did, I know you had a great time so comment below and share your favourite part!


Spice Up Your Sex Life - Sans Whips & Chains

This blog was prepared by Lips'n'Licks in her own personal capacity. The opinions expressed in this article are the author's own.

Over the past couple of years BDSM has made a major wave in the industry and has become the number one recommended method to "rejuvenate" a couples' sex life. I mean - who wouldn't want to inflict the pleasure of pain to their partner? And who wouldn't want to receive them? But what about the couples who want the pleasure without the pain? Here are a couple of sure fire ways to spice up yours and your partners sex life - sans whips and chains:


Adults can have toys too! And a vibrator is a great option when trying to add some season to your sex life. I get a lot of people willing to try a vibrator but nixing the idea because they don't really know what to do with it. What they don't realise is that there are many different ways to use a vibrator during sex as well as many different types of vibrators. New blog idea? I think so! There are rabbits, bullets, g-spotters and even couples vibrators. It just takes a little exploration to find the right techniques that work for you and your partner.

Lingerie/Dress Up
In my opinion, there is nothing that can awaken my arousal quicker than seeing my partner half naked - except for seeing them completely naked. And what makes it even better is when their dressed up in a sexy outfit that pays homage to all of my fantasies. This may be tough for some men, but go shopping with your lady and lure her into the lingerie store -trust me it won't take much. Browse and choose some outfits you can both agree on and have her try them out. This can be used as foreplay and it'll only get steamier once you're home and able to peel the outfit off. Ladies, this can only work if you are comfortable and confident in your sexy outfit, so clip on that garter belt and get to werk!

F*cking Fast
This doesn't mean have really fast sex. It's the polar opposite, actually. It's like a hunger fast, but instead of food it's f*cking. If you're having steady relations with your partner and feeling that it's getting a bit stale, abstain from having sex for as little as one full week. No making out, no seeing your partner naked - nada! I will allow little pecks and sleeping in the same bed because you still want to feel their presence but learn not take advantage of it. Once the week - or however long you choose - is up, you can end the countdown together while letting the flood gates open. You'll notice more feeling resulting in a deeper connection which will turn what was f*cking into making love.

Change of Scenery
Imagine having sex in the same country, in the same province, in the same city, in the same town, on the same street, in the same house, in the same room, on the same bed, with the same partner. That can get real boring real quick. So switch it up! I know must of us don't have the funds to be looking out of our windows taking in the beautiful view of the Eiffel Towel while we're getting some head from a Frenchman. But we can enjoy a nice road trip to Montreal with the person we love enjoying a good f*ck from behind in our Ritz hotel. It may not be Paris but it'll give you the same feeling.

I hope these ideas provide you with a little more variety than thinking about which colour ball gag you should buy when trying to spruce up you and your partners sex life. Remember, the best way to resolve any issue is good communication, so be informed on what your partner thinks before trying any of these ideas. Happy Explorations!!