Thursday, August 25, 2016

Will Masturbation Ruin Sex With A Partner?

On the Aren’t We Naughty online store we have a chat feature in which our customers as well as regular, everyday people get to openly ask their burning questions about love and sex in the new-age, private way. I answer questions from “Is this product in stock at the Brampton location?” to “What consists of a BDSM starter pack?” I’ve been able to answer them with ease, until I received this one: ‘Will becoming good at masturbation ruin sex with my partner?” - I was stumped.

I felt so bad making this potential customer wait for an answer but I had to take some time to think because I wanted to give them my best response. I deliberated - it had been a while since I had engaged in sexual intercourse so I felt no matter what I said I’d be answering the question with some inadequacy and a hint of ignorance. I didn’t want that - so, of course, I made it personal.

Confession time - for personal reasons, it’s been months since I’ve shared myself with a partner. And in those months I’ve depended on masturbation to fulfil my sexual needs. In that time I’ve become very good at pleasing myself, and have experienced orgasms that far surpass anything I’ve experienced with a human sexual partner because I know what I want and at exactly what points I want it. With a partner I am forced to work with their rhythms and preferences, which can be a negative or a positive depending on who I am engaging in intercourse with. Digging a little deeper, I realised that even though I am experiencing the ultimate release as a result of masturbation, there are areas that are lacking without a physical partner: intimacy; another human presence; a mutual understanding for each others needs; and simply, a connection.

Becoming a master-bator (see what I did there?) can have a negative effect on sex with a partner if all you are interested in is an orgasm. But intercourse begs so much from you physically, mentally and emotionally. Once you find the right partner, giving and receiving; working in response; submission and domination won’t feel so hard. It’ll feel - right, and you may just wonder how you could have ever done anything like that alone.

But until then. I’ll be in my room mastering my self-pleasure.


This blog was prepared by Lips'n'Licks in her own personal capacity. The opinions expressed in this article are the author's own.

Friday, August 19, 2016

Anal Play/Gardening 101

What do you do when you've exhausted all options on one side? You try a different side - maybe, even, the back side! It is no different in your physical relationship. It is only a matter of time until your partner feels they have seen everything they need to see in your front yard and hints to taking a peek in the back. If your partner has already taken their steps toward your rear, here are the steps you should take to prepare your garden for visitors.

Deweed (Douche)
You can't plant anything new on weed infested soil, so you've got to clean up the weeds and turn that soil! Douching before any anal action is a great way to keep you and your partner clean as well as limit cross contamination. It rids the rectum of any left over "weeds" and minimizes the possibility of any unwanted surprises popping out of the soil.

Irrigate (Lubricate)
Once the soil is cleaned and turned it is ready for some irrigation. The anus and rectum differ from the vagina because they do not self lubricate, that's why it is important to keep the anus as well as the anal object lubricated for ease of insertion and long lasting moisture. Without proper lubrication there is risk of cracks in the soil that can lead to stunted plant growth.

Pick Your Plants
Your soil is ready for planting! Now don't look for a big old rose bush to plant in your garden - start small and watch it grow in time. Butt plugs come in a wide range of sizes from small, medium to large. Go with the small one and work your way up as your tolerance becomes stronger. It is the same if using a penis - start with the tip and add more length as your comfort level rises. Let your soil pack down and adjust to the length and size of the roots as the plant grows.

Relax and Enjoy Your Garden
After all of that hard work and preparation for your visitor it is time to sit back, sip on sangria and bask in the glory of your garden. Relaxation is key in anal play. Believing the taboos surrounded by anal stimulation can make it easy to tense up, making it difficult for your partner or the anal object to enter smoothly - even with lubrication. Breathe and trust that your partner will not run through your garden kicking and screaming; trust that they will do their best to maintain and keep the integrity of your hard work - your beautiful garden.


This blog was prepared by Lips'n'Licks in her own personal capacity. The opinions expressed in this article are the author's own.

Wednesday, August 17, 2016

#HumpDay: Introducing the Satisfyer Pro 2

We are always bringing in new products here at Aren’t We Naughty, but it’s been a while since we have been so excited to introduce something new! Introducing the Satisfyer Pro 2, a brand spankin’ new clitoral toy for the ladies. This toy will help you achieve stronger, faster, and multiple orgasms. It promises a lot and it actually delivers!

The Satisfyer Pro 2 is a clitoral stimulator that uses pulsating waves of suction and vibration to tantalize your sensitive love button. Don’t worry, the Satisfyer is not a vacuum, it uses creates waves by sucking in a tiny bit of air and then pushing it back out again. This toy is perfect if you’re looking for something completely unlike anything else in your toy box. If the waves of pleasure aren’t enough, the Satisfyer also has 11 different vibration modes to choose from. 11! That’s a lot of modes! Unlike other somewhat similar toys out there, the Satisfyer Pro 2 is waterproof and rumour has it that it’s sensations are even more intense when used under water.

Since the Satisfyer offers “touchless” stimulation, if you often find the direct pressure and vibration of other clitoral toys too intense, this toy is for you. The Satisfyer has a nice soft silicone head that nuzzles in nicely against your clitoris, while fitting comfortably between your labia.

Try out the Satisfyer Pro 2, we have a good feeling that it’ll be your favourite toy! Thanks for reading, check back next Wednesday for another #HumpDay product spotlight!

Monday, August 15, 2016

The Journey to Vaginal Orgasm

First off, I'd like to start a slow, escalating hand clap for the thirty percent of woman who can achieve orgasm solely from vaginal stimulation. According to Freud, you're a grown ass woman. But speaking for the remaining seventy percent of women that need clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm- which Freud considered childish - I say to you: whoop-dee-doo-dah-day for you. But I won't lie in saying that I've dreamt of a day where I wouldn't have to remember to give myself some TLC while being taken by my partner. This is how I attempted a vaginal orgasm:

The Bigger the Better?

I looked for the biggest penis I could find and tried to conquer it. I figured the length and girth would cover more surface area and give the vaginal stimulation a 'fuller' effect - boy, was I wrong. I gained two things with that experience: the notion that size doesn't matter... and three days of pain.

Staying Open
I wasn't sure just how much more open I could get with my partner seeing as how we were having sex, but I tried. I kept my breath flowing, rode every pleasure wave that resonated through my body and voiced my pleasure with exciting moans and groans that had me questioning where those sounds came from. I held myself open to the feeling but nothing came, and neither did I.

Switching Positions
Before getting into it I did some research and found that the position of 'doggy style' was ideal for achieving a vaginal orgasm. So with my belly button to the floor and my hips to sky I entered my final attempt (and vice versa.) No, I didn't achieve vaginal orgasm but the pleasure I experience trying to get there was amazing, and now I wouldn't have it any other way.

After the third attempt I put it to rest. I came to the conclusion that I am not one of the thirty percent of women who can achieve a vaginal orgasm, and that I need a little - okay, maybe a lot - of TLC (tender love and clitoral stimulation.) Although, on the journey I found out more about myself sexually than I ever thought I would. I took myself out of my sexual comfort zones and openly received the new information that was flowing my way. And that information has changed my life of pleasure for the better.

Take it upon yourself to learn something new; if you don't achieve it you're guaranteed to learn something along the way.


This blog was prepared by Lips'n'Licks in her own personal capacity. The opinions expressed in this article are the author's own.

Thursday, August 11, 2016

Women's (Lesser Known) Erogenous Zones

Deriving from the Greek words eros and genous, the erogenous or love producing zones on the body are filled with nerve endings. These nerve endings make each area highly sensitive to touch which can produce a wide range of sensual responses such as relaxation, arousal, and - what we're all hoping for - orgasm. The most common erogenous zones on a woman - the clitoris and the vagina - are the most effective way to reach orgasm, but I'd like to steer your attention to the lesser know love producing zones to gain a more intimate and sensual foreplay experience for you and your partner. Here we go!

Mons Pubis
This is the part of the vulva that lies over the joint of the pubic bone - where the majority of a woman's pubic hair grows. The mons pubis is highly erogenous because of its close proximity to the clitoris and the vagina. Don't forget this zone on your way down to the treasure chest. Oral stimulation here will get her imagination running wild with ideas of what's to come. A lick here; a kiss there; maybe a little tug on a pubic hair will have your lady begging for more before it even starts.

The Nipples/Areolas
The great part about this erogenous zone is that when stimulated it triggers the same part of the brain that is triggered when stimulating the clit. With the right amount of stimulation, and time given, a nipple orgasm can be achieved! For optimal nipple stimulation, I suggest using the mouth. The simultaneous sucking and licking in a circular motion, plus the added moisture from the saliva will send your partner into ecstasy during foreplay. You can also use your fingers, and if you're feeling adventurous, the head of the penis can do the trick.

The Ears
On most mammals the function of the ears is to maintain equilibrium, and because the ears are already sensitive to even the slightest sound it makes it easier to sensually send your partner off balance. The most effective ways to stimulate this erogenous zone is through use of your lips, teeth and tongue. With the ear there are many ways to add your own creativity to stimulate your partner. You can cravenly kiss; naughtily nibble and lusciously lick to send chills down to the base of your partners spine.

One thing to remember when experimenting with any erogenous zone is that the root of any sensual stimulation is the mind. Once your partner enters that right state of mind almost anything can send them into a state of ecstasy. Pay attention to her body language and with every positive response aid in her riding that wave.


This blog was prepared by Lips'n'Licks in her own personal capacity. The opinions expressed in this article are the author's own.