Wednesday, August 3, 2011

Bondage: A Beginner’s Guide to Safety on the Edge

The act of bondage can be a scary thing to some people. With the way it’s marketed to the public, it looks like it’s performed by a bunch of “freaks” that enjoy wearing PVC bodysuits with mouth gags and being tied against a wall.

This simply isn’t true.

Bondage can be much more than that, or much less than that. It all depends on what you it to be. As long as it’s performed in a safe way and willingly for both people involved, then I say go for it and have fun with it.

If you’re unsure whether or not your partner is willing to dive into the world of pain for pleasure, here are just a few ways that you might be able to bring it up with them. Just remember that each person is different and only you know how your partner would react to each scenario.

● An often overlooked first step is outfits. As I said earlier, not all bondage gear is huge PVC body suits that cover the face. Sexy leather outfits that don’t leave very much to the imagination are also a great place to start. Who doesn't love seeing someone in a sexy black outfit and ready to go? You know they mean business!

● During your lovemaking session, ask them to tie you to the bed using a soft cloth, as rope might put them off at first. By doing this, you are unknowingly to them introducing them to the act of tying someone up which you can build on later down the road.

● Buy a small whip and bring it out during foreplay. Going straight to a large whip might seem kind of intimidating to some. Gently whipping your partner’s back as they are pleasuring you might associate the act with something that they enjoy.

There are many other ways you can plant the thought of exploring bondage with someone. Experiment and just ask them. As with all things related to sex, open dialogue and communication make for a healthy experience.

Now to get to the real meat of the article. You wanted to know what the best bondage gear is for beginners!

Restraints & Blindfolds

Purple Suede Bondage Mask - $22.95






Beginner Bondage Fantasy - $37.95

This kit would be the best starter set for any couple looking to explore their boundaries. It includes four (4) nylon straps and a blindfold. The act of being blindfolded might seem scary to some, but not knowing what will happen to you next can be a very exciting and exhilarating experience!






Whips
As mentioned earlier, introducing a small whip into the mix can be a fun way to introduce someone to the idea of bondage. Unless your partner is already really adventurous going in, try to stay away from whips with studded tassels or spikes.

Fetish Fantasy Love Plumes - $12.95

These are a great accessory for any couple at any level in their bondage adventure. Use one of these to gently tease your partner’s body by running it all over. For extra fun, tie them up and tickle them with one of these and watch them squirm from laughter.






Small Red Punishment Whip - $27.95

















Small Striped Whip (Available in assorted colours) - $25.95










Sex Furniture
Bondage is mostly defined as the act of tying someone up or introducing something that is considered “taboo” to your sexual experience. Furniture that is designed to enhance your lovemaking can really help things out when trying to gain access to your partner’s most pleasurable areas. Using wedges or swings can help you achieve those positions that you normally wouldn’t be able to.

Liberator Wedge - $129.99











Fantasy Door Swing - $49.99















Clothing
Just by using the right clothing, you can really set the mood for almost anything you want to bring up with your partner. It’s a very different thing if you ask them about bondage when you’re fully clothed, or if you ask them when you’re barely wearing anything with a whip in your hand! Try some of these outfits to get the answer you want.

Leather Buckle-up Platform Boots - $124.95
















Leather Cupless "Ophelia" Corset - $145.95















Men’s Leather & Lycra Shorts - $47.95















With these ideas in mind, you should have no problem getting a straight answer from whoever you’re asking. Just remember though, bondage is meant to be fun for BOTH people involved. As always, no means no. Both people must feel safe while in the process of bondage to fully enjoy it, so set up a safe word to know when to stop. Aside from that, have fun with this, experiment and test your limits. After all, you might not even know what you really like yet!

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