Friday, April 29, 2016

How to Introduce Your Partner to BDSM

Have you been lusting over BDSM but don’t know how to bring kink into your bedroom? Maybe you aren’t sure how to approach your lover without sending them running for the hills. Here are some tips to introducing your partner to kink without freaking them out (too much).

The key to a smooth BDSM introduction is to be gentle; pulling out a riding crop mid intercourse is a good way to turn your partner off the idea forever. Start outside the bedroom, this way there is no pressure on your partner to say yes. Have a conversation with your partner about kink/BDSM but don’t rush into telling them all the nitty gritty of your fantasies. Start off small, gauge the reaction, and go from there.

If you’d like to use crops, whips, ropes, and/or floggers, show them the implements and let them pick them up, play with them, try them on you, and let them become comfortable. If you don’t own any kinky implements yet, shop online together for some BDSM toys, make purchasing your toys together a part of the kinky fun. Involving your partner in choosing the implements is a great way to get them turned on to kink.


Start off small with a non-intimidating flogger (AKA cat of nine tails) or some cuffs, a small flogger can’t be whipped THAT hard and will not likely leave any marks on yours or your partner’s skin. Try the X-Play by Allure 3 Piece Passion Kit, it’s perfect for beginners because it includes a small flogger, eye cover, and cuffs. This kit is spicy enough to bring kink into your bedroom without going all out on toys meant for more seasoned kinksters.

Most importantly though, have fun!

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