This blog was prepared by Lips'n'Licks in her own personal capacity. The opinions expressed in this article are the author's own.
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Get BuzzyStarting my masturbation journey from a young age I have had copious amounts of time to discover exactly what I like when it comes to me and my clit. A little rub here a little pressure there and boom - orgasm. But I'm at a point where even though I achieve orgasm - I'm bored. Nothing surprises me anymore because I know all of my tricks! No wonder it takes less than three minutes. At first I thought: “who cares, it's just masturbation”. But that's like my partner saying: “who cares, it's just sex.” I couldn't imagine doing the same thing over and over and over again with a partner, so why would I do that to myself? That's when I realised my fingers were no longer enough. So I went to a novelty shop; made a date with myself, and that night introduced my clit to Flicker. Adding a vibrator to your self-pleasure is a great way to spice things up; it adds excitement and gives you more room to play and discover. The wide range of vibrating functions - from low to escalating - adds the element of surprise that you get from a real partner; but with a vibrator, you have the control to skip the parts you don't necessarily enjoy.
Kiss, Rub and FeelIn my younger masturbatory days things had to be done quick and dirty in fear that someone would catch me in the act. I didn't bother spending time falling in love with myself (like I even knew what that meant). That reflects in my adult self-pleasure. With always trying to achieve an orgasm as quickly as possible because I only have a couple minutes before someone gets home; I've got to get ready to go out; or dinner is still cooking on the stove, I almost forgot who I was having relations with - myself. On the next date I added some more me time. During this time I stood in front of my mirror; completely naked; looked myself deep in the eyes and oozed admiration. I found love in the kinkiest curl of my head to the chipped, unpolished toenail on my foot. And once that was complete - I was feeling myself - physically and mentally. Taking more time to kiss up, rub up and feel up on yourself gives your body the time to relax and arouse. This arousal can include hardened nipples, self-lubrication as well as vaginal lengthening and widening that will result in the ultimate release.
Add A TaskUsually people turn to self-pleasure for stress relief so wouldn't adding a task produce the opposite effect? Not exactly. When I started adding a task to my self-pleasure I found that each time it took my mind off of the many things I had to do in my day, and it was nice to have only one thing to give my attention to - even for a little while. On your next date give yourself the task of finding your G-spot or seeing just how aroused you can get with solely nipple play or anal play. These tasks can open up many avenues in your self-pleasure and provide you with knowledge of what you like from what you don't like. Now with every task you try to conquer the outcome may not always be a positive one, but don't let that discourage you. There is always another task and always another time.
Try them out! I hope these ideas get your wheels turning and pussy throbbing at the possibilities of what may come after two minutes and twenty-four seconds.